The four wives in our lives

The four wives in our lives

BUSINESS MATTERS (Beyond the bottom line) By Francis J. Kong (The Philippine Star) | Updated December 7, 2013 – 12:00am

Some stories stand the test of time. I came across this material so many years ago. A lot of religions claim to be the source of this, but Google it and you’ll find that no one could pinpoint the original authorship of this material. The following is called “The Four Wives In Our Lives.” There was a rich merchant who had four wives. He loved the fourth wife the most, and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the third wife very much. He’s very proud of her, and he always wanted to show her off to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men. He also loved his second wife. She’s a very considerate person, always patient and, in fact, the merchant’s confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his second wife, and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.Now, the merchant’s first wife is a very loyal partner, and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business, as well as in taking care of the household. However, the merchant didn’t love the first wife, and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, “Now I have four wives with me. But when I die, I’ll be alone. How lonely I’ll be!” Thus, he asked the fourth wife, “I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No way!” replied the fourth wife, and she walked away without another word. The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant’s heart.

The sad merchant then asked the third wife, “I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No!” replied the third wife, “Life is so good over here! I’m going to remarry when you die!” The merchant’s heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the second wife, “I always turned to you for help, and you’ve always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!” replied the second wife. “At the very most, I can only send you to your grave.” The answer came like a bolt of lightning, and the merchant became devastated.

Then a voice called out: “I’ll leave with you. I’ll follow you no matter where you go.”

The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, “I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!”

Actually, we all have four wives in our lives.

The fourth wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it’ll never leave with us when we die.

Our third wife? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.

The second wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they had been there for us when we’re alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

The first wife is, in fact, our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material wealth and sensual pleasure. Guess what? It’s actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it’s a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we’re on our deathbed to lament.

“God gives to us the gift of time

To use as best we can

To live each moment in His will

According to His plan

He has made everything beautiful in its time.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11

Jesus asked a very penetrating question: “What profits a man even if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?” The answer? Nothing!

What are you doing with your first wife at this instance? Something for business people like you and me to think about.

About bambooinnovator
Kee Koon Boon (“KB”) is the co-founder and director of HERO Investment Management which provides specialized fund management and investment advisory services to the ARCHEA Asia HERO Innovators Fund (www.heroinnovator.com), the only Asian SMID-cap tech-focused fund in the industry. KB is an internationally featured investor rooted in the principles of value investing for over a decade as a fund manager and analyst in the Asian capital markets who started his career at a boutique hedge fund in Singapore where he was with the firm since 2002 and was also part of the core investment committee in significantly outperforming the index in the 10-year-plus-old flagship Asian fund. He was also the portfolio manager for Asia-Pacific equities at Korea’s largest mutual fund company. Prior to setting up the H.E.R.O. Innovators Fund, KB was the Chief Investment Officer & CEO of a Singapore Registered Fund Management Company (RFMC) where he is responsible for listed Asian equity investments. KB had taught accounting at the Singapore Management University (SMU) as a faculty member and also pioneered the 15-week course on Accounting Fraud in Asia as an official module at SMU. KB remains grateful and honored to be invited by Singapore’s financial regulator Monetary Authority of Singapore (MAS) to present to their top management team about implementing a world’s first fact-based forward-looking fraud detection framework to bring about benefits for the capital markets in Singapore and for the public and investment community. KB also served the community in sharing his insights in writing articles about value investing and corporate governance in the media that include Business Times, Straits Times, Jakarta Post, Manual of Ideas, Investopedia, TedXWallStreet. He had also presented in top investment, banking and finance conferences in America, Italy, Sydney, Cape Town, HK, China. He has trained CEOs, entrepreneurs, CFOs, management executives in business strategy & business model innovation in Singapore, HK and China.

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